Making a relationship work takes effort. According to the theory of Dr. Gary Chapman, one of the keys to a lasting relationship is understanding which love language you and your partner respond to the most, then regularly put it into practice. A love language is essentially the way one expresses their love. These are the five love languages:
Words of Affirmation
These are verbal expressions of affection, encouragement, and appreciation. “Thank you for picking me up” or ”You look great today” for example.
Gifts are pretty straightforward: you feel loved when you receive “visual symbols of love”. It’s not necessarily about the monetary value of the present, but rather its emotional significance.
Acts of Service
This means doing something kind or helpful for your partner, like washing the dishes so they can relax or making coffee for them in the morning.
People whose love language is quality time feel most adored when their partner wants to actively spend time and engage in activities with them. Think a walk after dinner or watching a movie together.
Those with physical touch as their love language value physical intimacy highly, whether it’s sexual or more platonic. It can be hugging, kissing, cuddling on the couch, or holding hands.